Emotional Unavailability…

“They are emotional unavailable.”

This comes up often.

AND is this unavailability all about them?

I don’t like to be the bearer of bad news AND this may have something to do with you.

Let’s explore a few questions with the curious and self-compassion lens:

Are you dismissive of your own emotions?

Explore your capacity for holding your full spectrum of emotions.. Do you tend to shut it off when the discomfort arises? Do you make it wrong to feel certain things? This is where we want to explore our WHOLENESS as a human and making it ok to embrace all of US.

Do you have a hard time receiving?

Love is fluid. We can lead with love and ... let love in. Rising woman talks about this often. Yes we can give and give, but what happens when you stop and leave space for receiving to appear? Usually learnt from a young age, we decided not to depend on anyone, which left us hyper-independent. The interesting thing about over-giving is that it allow us to control our environment.

Are you not able to be vulnerable?

It is hard for love to bloom where vulnerability is non-existent.

We have to let go of control, be open, and allow someone else to love us, into the uncertainty of it all. It can be scary and I promise it will allow you to experience the fullness of life and see more people step in to meet you in that space.

Brené Brown has a great quote on vulnerability:

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

What is your belief around partnership?

Be honest here. What is that whisper?  You might say you are "open" but what is truly there.

For example: Being in partnership is stressful and restrictive.

If this is there, of course we aren't available for partnership. It keeps us from actually putting ourselves out there.

I see you. There is maybe a part of you who is terrified of getting hurt again, and going back into a dance that wasn’t really in allignment.

Better to have loved and lost by being the fully expressed you than never loving or letting love in.

With love, gratitude, and courage,

Kaitlin